My First Ice breaker
This is a copy of the journal entry I just posted on Okcupid. Thought i’d share it here with the everyone. What do you think?
So I just sent my first Ice breaker message. I have no idea to who they are or where they are from. All I know is we both like computers. I like this!
I like icebreakers because it removes all the stress of messaging someone. If I can see your picture before I message you I believe for me that reduce’s my chance’s of messaging you regardless of rather your hot or not. Some of these profiles people write can be rather intimidating at times. People do such a good job of making them selfs sound like the have it together. Like they know exactly who they are and what they want. I’m better at dealing with people in person. When reading text I have no visual cue’s to go on. All I have is the words. The words that dance around on the page throwing my emotions from left to right without mercy.
I’ll read one profile and the guy is absolutely beautiful. Then I read his profile and that little voice kicks in in the back of my head. “He’s currently working on his PHd and you haven’t even finished your AA. Don’t message him it’s a waist of time”. That little shit of a voice. “He says anyone can message him but does he also mean black guys?” The little voice that weighs heavy on your soul as a call from sally Mae informing you your soul still belongs to her ever undying grip. “This guy use’s a lot of big words on his profile if you message him with this pathetic arsenal you call a vocabulary you’ll be waisting your time because he won’t get past the first sintance before clicking the delete button.”
Yes sending someone a message for me is not that easy, but than again i’m not simply on the site for a hookup. If I wanted that I’d go to other choice sites. I’m looking for the one I can wake up next to and pray i’m not dreaming.
So all that rambling was simply to say I like ice breakers. I can see what we have in common and just send the message. No preconcieved notions of failure that I have to fight off with a stick. Just do it and move on.
And if fate would have it, you and me, hit reply and let it be.
- Donte
